Dr. William K. Larkin
“Why” is not the real question.
Looking for the answer to “why” sustains the negative mood.
If we’re headed in the wrong direction, our feelings are going to tell us.
We may shove them down, drink them down, shop them down, sex them down, but they are there, telling us to take a different direction.
Most negative feelings sneak up on you like fog because they are learned habits of feelings. “Moods” occur for all kinds of reasons we will likely never really understand. They are low level, perhaps chronic negative feelings at a 1 or 2 or 3, on scale of 10.
Ask “why” and you focus on them and create more of them.
You’re headed into a DownSpiral.
We would like to believe that our moods are all controlled by our biochemistry and give responsibility for them to something other than our control over them.
That is not the truth.
For the most part, the moods we have can largely be controlled by two things:
1) The habitual thoughts we think.
2) The habitual emotions we customarily allow.
The brain is supposed to produce thoughts. Its job is to think thoughts. Your brain will think thoughts that you never initiated. Your brain will go and go and go on creating thoughts. You can, if you choose, simply make yourself an observer of those thoughts.
However, you can exercise your own “quality control.”
You can choose the good thoughts you want to think and you can reject the negative thoughts that are not up to your “standard of quality.”
The filter for your thinking is your choice to direct your brain to go where you want it to go. You can sort through your thinking and you can, by choosing your thoughts and your feelings, feel better or feel worse.
You can train your thoughts and you can train your feelings to work with you or to work against you.
Our Emotional Gym grows positive emotional muscle and mindfulness.
Your vibration conditions both your thought and your feeling patterns.
Your goals, or lack of them, directly condition your moods and your thoughts.
We learn positive emotions; they don’t just happen on a regular basis.
If you are more used to feeling negative emotion than positive emotion, then your moods will lean you in that direction. If you are more accustomed to choosing positive emotions, your lean will bring more “good” into your life.
You have created your own mood predisposition, and you can change it.