We LIVE In Union With Ourselves Or We Are Separated

If we learn to tune in, it can become apparent when we are living in union with our real selves and when we are living in a state where we are separated from ourselves. It is easy to say that good feels good and that bad feels bad.  If you are living in a union with yourself, you know that very clearly.  If you are separated from that union with yourself, the distinction is not nearly so clear because you aren’t paying attention to the “within.”  Your focus has changed to the “without” on the outside of you in a way that is negative and full of cacophony. (noise, disharmony)

Gongs, chimes and harmonious tones are used to create sounds that vibrate and create resonance.  Resonance is another word for being in union with ourselves.  Meditation tries to reduce the resistance in us by helping us to let go of thinking for a time, to increase resonance and the vibration that comes from being One with ourselves.  But stopping the thinking mind is very difficult.

We know when we are out of our skins usually only when we have been out of them for a while; we just feel worse and worse.  When we really start to feel bad, we wake up to the reality that something is wrong, and we struggle to find our way back to this elusive state of feeling ok or feeling good.

However, the “click” – the signal – that we are separated from ourselves comes much sooner and the resonance or vibration of being in union with ourselves can be elusive. I know when I am one with me.  But it has taken a very long time to cultivate.  Certainly the realization of the five states of the Emotional Gym – gratitude, love, peace, joy and hope – have been great guides.  It has been a great awakening to the realization that these states are at the very core of my being, waiting to be tapped as a major signal of union with myself.  They are no longer states I wait to feel because something on the outside of me has created them.  These states create resonance and the vibration of oneness with my self and the rest of my world.

A major step in experiencing this reality of Oneness or Living in Union with your self is the state of “flow.”  It is what I call “moving meditation.”  It is being “one with the music.”  It is essential that we learn how to do “just this,” to focus and to be able to “stay put” in whatever we are doing.  Classical states of flow are described as challenges that match our skill, forgetting the ego, and just letting go to a state of immersion in something that we love.  But all of life can be a “just this” experience.  This “just this” experience is the practice of living in union with yourself or at Oneness. The experience causes brain synchrony. The brain uses less psychic energy and its daily allotment of psychic energy is far better spent.  It is the essence of energy.

We separate from ourselves very easily.  The step of separation leads to blaming, fear, anxiety, worry, and dread that starts with not listening for where the click is when you break with yourself.  You know when you are in a conversation and something just clicks off.  You know when fear sets in or that union is there.  Ignore it long enough and a little itch becomes a big rash of discontent. But this week we focus not on the problem of separation, because it is everywhere and because it does absolutely no good to put the focus there.

We focus on what to do about it and that is to practice flow, moving meditation, “just this.”  It is the result of having a healthy, strong, vibrant VibeCore.  It is a major chapter and a major step in Growing The NeuroPositive Mind.  You have to build and stay in flow. This state of union with your self is what allows your inner desire to bubble to the top so that you start to be able to know what you want.  Don’t know what you want?  Then you’re separated from yourself and you are not practicing flow.  You are not appreciating your life or anything around you, and you are not practicing flow or “just this.”

A good measure of your Oneness emerges from your VibeCore:  knowing what you want with clarity, believing you will get it, and openness to however and whenever that occurs. Everything starts to fit and your experience in the world is one of synchrony –things come our way and happen, they unfold and everything just works.  The sense of this can be as firm as your ability to swallow.  When it isn’t there, nothing seems to go down easily. We choke on this or that piece of life. There is an energy like a low hum that switches on when I am in union with “me.”  I purr and so does my life. 

How do you know and recognize when you are in Union with YOU?


1) Summarize your understanding of the research on the major attributes of psychological flow. How have you experienced the delicate balance between engagement of your strengths, the challenge of the task, and loss of ego? Tell us your story.

2) How has your professional ANI training supported the growth of your VibeCore? Which of the 3 dimensions of VibeCore need more focus? What tools do you have to support the growth of this dimension? Give us an example.


1) This blog describes the “just this” experience. What activities in your experience typically bring you to this state? Tell us your story. What natural strengths and talents do you have which sustain this state of focus and flow?

2) “The “click” – the signal – that we are separated from ourselves and the resonance or vibration of being in union with ourselves can be elusive.” What signals do you experience in your life that you are “out of sync” with yourself? How do you use this cue to get back more in line with yourself? How do you see your strengths as a support? Tell us your story.

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Dr. William K. Larkin

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