When one door of happiness closes, another opens. But often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
WHAT IS THE DOOR THAT HAS OPENED FOR YOU THAT YOU CAN’T SEE?
The dots do connect, but sometimes we are not far enough away from them or they are not far enough behind us. This may blind us to the perspective of seeing how it all fits to get us to the point where we are NOW. Likewise, as we move forward, it is difficult to see the small signs that lead and guide us.
The mind is at work guiding us, but in a process that is not all at once visible. There is a part of the brain that is always seeking and moving forward, at least it is attempting to, if you will let it.
Suppose this issue is making a relationship work rather than just ending it. One of the biggest steps is to take your vision off of what is not working in a relationship and put your attention on what you want. Focus on what is good about the relationship and remove your focus from what is wrong or troublesome. Too often we want something from someone else that actually mirrors something that we want from ourselves but cannot touch.
How do you give to yourself what you’re looking for in someone else who has seemed to close the door on it?
How do you do for you what you want someone else in a relationship to do for you? What is the door you need to open that is your door and your way and your desire that you think would be satisfied if the relationship changed?
What is that door for you? Look at the change you want in someone else or in a relationship and identify how it exists in your own relationship with yourself.
Change in you, in some level, what you want to change outside of you. Just the realization can be helpful.
When we focus on a problem, we often add to the problem because we are thinking and feeling on the same level as the problem itself.
How do you get to higher ground?
The NeuroPositive Method™ is a very different approach that does not diagnosis a disorder, give it a number, and insert you into a counseling or psychotherapy system. This is different. It’s a coaching, mentoring, educational approach that doesn’t assume you are ill or troubled enough to fit a diagnostic category.
1. Change your feeling state. Feelings are indicators of what’s going on, but they are far more than that. They can also be chosen. Chose a feeling that you like and go there. We teach you how to do this in our Emotional Gym. You become the master of your feelings.
2. Go to one of your primary strengths. If you don’t know what they are, we scientifically test you and guide you into how only you can use those strengths in your own way. Most folks don’t really know what their own strengths are!
These are two steps, there are more. But just these two steps move your brain to a different place. It is more than just changing your thinking. It draws on your intelligence from different places in your brain and changes your perspective. It plugs into where the solutions are and they are within you.
They are the doors ready to open that have gone unnoticed.