The Brain’s “Open Door”

Benefits Blocks

If you are sad, in a funk, dealing with loss, large or small, there is a space or a clue, if you will look, that moves you forward and leads you on.

It is the question of the next attachments in your life. It is a wondering that looks over the loss and asks, “Where is the opening? What can I make of this? What do I want to become in the midst of this and where do I want to go with this sadness? Can I begin to see any benefits?”

How can I stop and listen, notice, and be still and more attentive to what wants to grow?

Each of us has “TouchStones” stored in our brains that affect your energy level. “TouchStones” are memories which are big reference points for our thoughts and feelings.

They are memories of where “the door opened” to new meaning in our lives.

Door Open Close

Negative memories are linear and they are managed by the left hemisphere. The left hemisphere will give you whatever negative memory or collection of them you need to sustain isolating and playing it safe.

The left hemisphere will store your memories of a “door that closed” so that you don’t even consider where a new door could or even already has opened.

Negative memories and their patterns lose their power to create isolation and the host of other issues that comprise structures of blocked, negative energy by the way they are integrated by the right hemisphere. There are over 100 billion neurons and thousands of connections that are at work here, either holding you back or moving you outward into a healthy exchange with the world around you, into new ways of thinking and feeling.

Brain Evolution2The left hemisphere of your brain will remember a “touchstone,” particularly a negative one, in a factual way that fits how you use it.

Your right hemisphere recalls a memory within a much larger context, and transforms negative energy into positive, open, and attachment-oriented energy.

Negative memories and their patterns lose their power to create isolation and the host of other issues that comprise structures of blocked, negative energy by the way they are integrated by the right hemisphere.

There are over 100 billion neurons and thousands of connections that are at work here, either holding you back or moving you outward into a healthy exchange with the world around you.

This is the benefit. You unblock your psychic energy and you become freer and much more able to be in an UpSpiral, where you learn faster, are more creative, and “feel good.” This increase in positive energy is a “lubricant” that allows your brain to function with greater ease and integrity.

The experience of sadness and loss is a process. Life is a process, and we are also the author of our processes of attachment in life that creates, unfolds, and allows the process of life to evolve.

If we demand that our lives remain fixed, and the possessions, plans, and lives of those to whom we are attached remain constant, we become fixated in a way that turns against the emerging health and growth of our bodies and minds. It is a significant root cause of what makes us ill.Move Forward

We are made for attachment, and because of that, we are often detaching to evolve and move on, even when it seems to make no sense. For example, detachment from expectations can be an important discipline when we are attached to things that will not come through for us– things that will not supply what they seem to promise.

Attachment to the space that occurs in suffering and loss, and attachment to what can come from tragedy, is the process of the ongoing evolution of life.

And our very health, vitality, and resilience in this life all depend upon it.

About the author

Dr. William K. Larkin
  • kathy poehnert

    I love being the “author of my processes of attachment”! I notice, all around me, how those with whom I interact are so attached to their negative memories, and use them to either rationalize WHO they are now, or avoid becoming something else. I notice complaints, and judgements even about small things are rampant….even when in the experience of fun and enjoyment. My brain does not even go there…and even if it does, momentarily, I choose to detach from that thought, and attach to the Flow of the moment, and be grateful for all that is around me.
    I am not even sure most people are conscious of their attachments to negative thoughts because they are so routine, and so automatic.
    I find it is sometimes difficult to maintain a certain level of relationships that were once there, yet, at the same time it is hard to detach. Maybe I am needing to detach from my judgements of them!!

  • Jo-Anne

    While sadness and loss is a part of life, it is so necessary to detach at some point and especially detach from the negative memories (keeping the good memories) in order to move forward. I love the concept that I am the “author” in my life, and get to determine what I want to attach to. It’s a liberating process and one I hadn’t given much thought to until recently. It is empowering to know and feel that we have the choice in our lives to be happy, to attach to good things, healthy things, and detach from the negative around us, in the news, in people we interact with who are still very attached to their story. In detaching from some things, I find I have much more energy for new and exciting things is my life. This is awesome!

  • BAM

    I love the comment that you don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward. I think sometimes we stall and use negativity as a crutch and safe haven as we haven’t got the answer on how to move forward. Just knowing we can move forward without having it all figured out is awesome. It reminds me of something else we learned recently that we can be frustrated and positive at the same time or we can be sad but positive at the same time. These examples, plus a few others, reminded me that positivity is not happy, happy, happy. It is all about what we decide to attach to.

  • Beverly Harvey

    Opening the door to neuropositivity finally enabled me close the door on sadness and grief brought on by the death of both parents. For two years, I was in a funk before I was introduced to neuropositivity. While I had to push myself to do the Emotional Gym exercises in the first few weeks, it was only a short time before I noticed that the dark cloud was starting to lift and there seemed to be some hope for happiness. It’s fascinating to think that there are 100 billion neurons and thousands of connections that are at work in my brain and that my mind can tell the brain what to focus on, what direction to go. Experiencing this first hand, I can see how my attachments to life will keep me healthy and alive.

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