The Secret To Letting Go

Letting Go

…Is identifying where you want to attach.

Your VibeCore is a like a magnet of energy you put out that attracts to you what you get in life.

Let’s first talk about the whole idea of a personal vibration. It is not a new idea. You really already know about this if you listen to your “gut” or your intuition, or the sense you have when you walk into a room. It is so much a part of us that we don’t even really notice it, but we use it all the time.

A vibration is your “vibe,” it’s the vibe you put out to others about who and how you are. And it’s the vibe you pick up from others about who and how they are.

It is so close to you it’s almost like an instinct. It can come as a surprise, though, that we may be better at picking up someone else’s vibe more than we are aware of what is our own vibe and what makes it what it is.

The longer you are around another person’s vibe, that you have learned to be so used to their vibe that you can read them in an instant. We sometimes call it reading their “mood,” but this is much more than mood. Mood is an outcome of one’s VibeCore.

Wanting is not an easy thing because we are given so many messages about wanting, and especially about desiring.

We have also been trained, oftentimes, that our wants and wanting are selfish, that we want too much, even that we are greedy.

We are often times told to be satisfied with what we have, that we are never content, always wanting more. Feeling guilt for wanting and desiring is an easy experience for many people.

Wanting what we want is a matter of an issue called “attachment.” Your first job, after you were born, was attachment to the world. We are almost obsessed by “letting go” philosophies and ideas, and for sure there are things we must let go of having, being, and doing.

But the great secret of letting go is to define what it is that you really want to attach to. A focus on letting go takes the energy away from defining the next attachment, the next area of growth, the momentum of forward-moving progress.

Do you have to let go first? No. But you will subtly let go when you even start to think about what you want next, about what is next, about where you are going.

Wanting and desire and attachment are more important than letting go.

You do not have to know in a day, on the spot, what you want. You only have to be guided by your own intention to getting there.

You do not have to have “certitude” that you will get it, but you do have to be aimed at using your real strengths more and more.

Playing to your strengths builds your VibeCore, and should increasingly become your mantra.

© Dr. William K. Larkin 



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Dr. William K. Larkin
  • Alan Cohen

    Interesting idea. I love the idea of being more intentional in terms of what we want, and to focus on this, versus attaching to how it is going to come to us, when it is going to come to us, and to some fixed idea of the best way for it to manifest. I have found in my life that over-attachment to an outcome looking a certain way is a recipe for disaster, resentment, hurt and disatisfaction.. When I am clear about what I want and why I want it, and to let go of the way it will show up, I am ultimately happier, and in flow.

  • Kelsey Abbott

    I’m curios about the term “letting go.” What does it mean to you? To me, it means openness and faith. Therefore, it is part of the clarity and intention-setting. In my personal experience, I have found flow through setting clear intentions, trusting the process and being curious about how it will all come about.

  • Dr. gloria wright

    In growing up, being called “selfish” was not a compliment. I was grown before I realized that when my oldest sibling called me selfish it was really about her being selfish. Duh….
    So I had to learn to accept and appreciate that I was worthy of having what I wanted. And, yes, I wanted to be aware of not being inconsiderate of others with my desires.
    When I moved to NC and went into semi-retirement, I had to look at what I wanted in my senior years. What gave my life meaning and fulfillment? What did a happy life look like for me?
    Realizing that my desires fed into my vibes and attracted what I wanted, I became more intentional about “feeling” that I could have and get what I wanted. Making new friends and settling into a new environment gave me an opportunity to start anew.
    When I focused on what I wanted, there was a natural inclination to let go of what I didn’t want. In being close to family again, I had to take stock of the criticism and judgement of others. I knew that I didn’t need the nay sayers, so I had to pull away from toxic relationships and engage with people who saw the best in me. This was a difficult and challenging endeavor. I loved my family, but needed to build a supportive web of relationships for me to thrive.
    Finding community of like minds and interest is an ongoing goal. Spending time with people who engage authentically and bring out the best in me is rewarding. I’m building a new village for myself. I’m aiming to thrive – not just survive.

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