Negative Hits Are Stronger Than…

Bully.jpg…positive ones. But– and this is a big “but”– negative feelings have less impact and you feel them for a shorter period of time when you have a reservoir of positive feelings. Negative hits do just that; they “hit” in a way that kind of knocks the emotional air out of us. They are quick or they are sudden and then they grow. They are the bullies in your emotional playground. Dependent upon the degree of the threat which the negative represents, the hit varies, but negative emotion is stronger in its immediacy than is positive feeling. However, here is the good news! Positive feeling is non-linear. This means that the more your reservoir of emotion is filled with the positive, the more it will appear, especially when you need it.

If you will make positive feelings a low-grade, chronic, ambient background, a sound track of your life, it will take over the negative more quickly and the Brain25.jpgnegative will last less and less time. Think of those times when a negative thought, feeling or reaction was something hung around all day long until you slept it off. The antidote to the toxin of negative feeling and thoughts that are unwanted, and the “hit” that seem to give us out of nowhere at time, is to practice positive feelings. Rehearse them, live in them, say them, think them, journal about them. Make a list everyday of what you’re grateful for. And this is not a big load of positivity I’m asking for. I’m not asking you to be so cheery and bubbly and always so perky that someone would like to stick a cork in your mouth.

On a scale of 1-10, join me this week and feel love, peace, gratitude, joy, and hope, or any one of those feelings, at a “2” or a “3” or a “4.” Just a little, just enough to keep your real smile going. This is really what you are doing. You are tipping an inner scale, something like an inner teeter-totter, and instead of going up and down, you are moving SeesSaw2.jpgthe fulcrum of the teeter totter so that the emotions with the most weight are positive.

There is NOTHING in your life that doing this won’t affect. When you get to a positive place, you are much more capable of figuring out what the negative feelings are about and what do with them. You never solve the negatives from a negative place.

So practice and create the positive reservoir that describes where you live inside, because that reservoir, either positive or negative, creates who you are.

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Dr. William K. Larkin

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