If you “attach” easily in healthy ways based upon knowing and using your strengths and staying in an UpSpiral, transition usually appears as a new light over on the horizon of a new potential adventure of learning and experience. If you “hold on” a little too much to where you are, the light appears as a little bit of “itch” where you are- the itch of some low-level discontent From there the contrast of either way just gets greater. You feel more drawn or feel more of an itch. And then it just grows a little more and more and more.
Our capacity to notice a new light on the horizon depends upon on our aliveness. “Aliveness” is the peculiar trait which describes humans when they are at their best.
Aliveness is noticing this and that, like a giraffe which has a tall reach and notices what is in the distance. The antennae of personal aliveness pick up the signals of what is pulling us forward toward more aliveness and more satisfaction.
We prize being finally getting “settled.” Good luck! You get it for awhile, but if you’re alive, being “settled” becomes “settling” because there is this thing in you which always wants to express and experience novelty. It’s hard for a youth-oriented culture to believe what happens at 80 when the only models of aliveness on television are all under 30. It’s also hard when those who are 80 have sold out and also act like the only reality in aging is decline.
But it actually happens more at 80, if you let it, because you have more experienced neurons in your brain propping up your consciousness. Have you noticed how people under 30 just really keep doing the same crazy things over and over? Monet was painting his greatest paintings after he was 80 with specially designed glasses because he could no longer see the whole spectrum of light without them. Imagine that! Painting the “light” at 80! That is what made him great. He painted the effect of the light on an object and not the object itself.
Where is the light appearing on the horizon for you, the faint light that you have to be alive to see?