We have not been trained to go to the “higher ground” of our strengths, of feeling good, of living in an UpSpiral.
Where is the positive emotion?
Where is the positive thought?
What is the strength that works best?
What do I really want?
We are not trained to “go to the higher place.”
This is what will pry you loose from the judgment of the ego, which, in its appearance, is simply telling you to go “GHP.”
Your ego is hard at work keeping you just exactly where you are. It doesn’t like to attach to new things. Your ego holds you to your associations with your old strengths. You play to your strengths or you play to your weaknesses.
Judging is a way of playing to your old strengths to keep yourself fixed where you are and so that you do not have to face change in your life. It creates a stagnant, fixed life given to DownSpiral movement. This is the kind of judging that has a negative emotional content to it. It’s about the people you react to, don’t like, bother you, irritate and rub you the wrong way.
The negative that you see in another person, that also produces with it a negative reaction in yourself, is judgment. It is also projection.
What you project is something within yourself that you have not come to accept and grow through.
Judging causes you to play to your weaknesses because you have to be coming from a weakness in order to get this “judging” thing going.
What you don’t like in another person that bothers you emotionally is what exists on the inside of you in some fashion or another. It is a key to your greater inner freedom.
We are creating a new mythology, and it is not characterized by “living in the now.” That is just the best present cultural solution we can accept.
It is characterized by finding your autotelic center that generates your personal sense of discovery and satisfaction.
It is the core of “flow.”
There is no dragon to slay on the way to “manhood” or enlightenment.
There is, however, the way to the permission-giving center which allows us to experience pleasure and novelty.
“Flow” is a description of one aspect of this new mythology of the essential journey.
Pay close attention to those places where the ego is raising a fuss.
It’s goal of course is to get you to go to a weakness, to become frustrated and oppressed.
However, it is also a laser pointer to GHP.
© Dr. William K. Larkin