It’s at the core of whether we perceive the events of life to be a threat or to be safe.
There are, for sure, real threats, but most of the time what we allow to be threatening is not, or not to the degree in which we respond. Our lives are much more filled with what creates a sense of safety if we allow it.
We can be happier and we can experience being safer by managing negative emotions and negative conversations that are not necessary.
Most of the negativity we engage in isn’t necessary, changes nothing, and leaves us feeling threat at some level.
Check the tendency to complain, to gossip, to criticize, and to be too hard on yourself. Much of our negative life is unnecessary and useless.
It is the unnecessary negatives, the wasted negative energy of trying to change things we can’t or worry about things that never happen, that are the negatives we need to learn to manage.
Put your focus and attention on what is good and beautiful, savor what you enjoy, do the things you love, and pay more and more attention to connecting to people you really enjoy, who make you laugh, who “hear you” and “get you,” and let them know how important they are to you.
©Dr. William K. Larkin