There are oftentimes negatives in your face.
What is their wisdom?
“Ships sail out, and ships sail west,
By the very same breezes that blow:
It’s the set of the sails,
And not the gales,
That determine where they go.”
The wind in your face, that is for sure a negative, can cause you to despair of going further, or the negative can be the gift that it can be: the decision to reassess and use your for a change in direction.
Then what blew in your face becomes the energy that fills your sails.
Negativity is a warning and an indicator that leads us in another direction. We are not intended to stay in negativity, but it is a normal part of life as an indicator.
We are all going to have negative times and slumps, when we are obviously not operating with all of our cylinders of energy and positivity firing. They are called our BRAC cycle.
Our BRAC cycle happens about every 12 hours, and at one end we are at our highest and best and at the other end we are at our lowest.
BRAC is an acronym for our daily biological clock of our highest high and our lowest low within a 24 hour period. But regardless, this is not an excuse to feel worse, think worse, and expect something worse at the lowest point of your day.
Why does it happen? It is a natural flow of energy.
Why is that we can have a down day, or a down “several days?” When you all get finished asking the wrong question, which is “why”, and come up with a thousand different answers, it doesn’t matter. It just happens.
The question is how do we use it? Use the time gently and be as encouraging to yourself as you would be with your best friend.
Treat yourself as nicely and as lovingly as a friend who was having a slump. Would you beat up on them and ask them a thousand questions until you got to the very “bottom” of their souls? Of course not.
Tell yourself about how good you are when all your cylinders are firing. Tell yourself what it feels like when you’re not in a slump, tell yourself that you know you will bounce back, not only back but that you are very resilient, and that you will be feeling even better and that you will be higher and higher in your UpSpiral.
Use your NeuroPositive skills and tools and manage this BRAC cycle more effectively.
Slumps just are, and if there is a reason for them, the reason will “show up” when you feel better and it will come to you. It will just come to you if you leave it alone. In one way or another it will come to you.
The more you nag at it and dissect it and talk about, the more you create it. The best answers to your problems come when you aren’t thinking about them, or the answers surprise you when they come through someone else or a movie or a book, or just a knowing.
Stop beating your slump and yourself to death, and practice the principles that we teach in our classes and our coaching.
You become the emotions you choose to live in. Lean, just gently, peacefully lean toward the positive, if you can only do it a little.
Every negative is a gift or solution in disguise.
© Dr. William K. Larkin