Archive - June 13, 2016

Love That Is Idiosyncratic

Love That Is Idiosyncratic

Be Yourself

Idiosyncratic=unusual, unexpected, edgy,

outlandish, highly unique and personal.

Love is not “niceness.” It is not the culture of “nice, nice, nice” that shrouds hostility and back biting. Love is very idiosyncratic. It is not the failure of courage to be forthright and clear about one’s opinions.

I recall three experiences with Mother Theresa. The first was one at a college commencement in which she told the students there not to quit what they were doing and come to India. Instead, they were told to find the lonely person in their own backyard and to give them companionship.

Second, in a cathedral with a not-so-good loud speaker system and a complaining audience, she stepped away from the microphone so the crowd would have to strain to hear her and to be very, very quiet.

Third, in a new home for her sisters to serve an American slum community, she told the providers of the home for her sisters to take out the beds, take out the carpeting, and to make other changes that stripped the place of the “beauty” the well-meaning church folks had created. She didn’t even thank them, but just told them that her sisters needed to be able to identify with the poor. Not so nice. No, not very nice at all.

Love is highly idiosyncratic. Everyone loves differently. There is a different quality and different nature to everyone’s love. And to anyone who says, “love is love and you can always feel it,” I say not true.

Idiosyncratic love takes form and shape differently in different people. Those caught up in the cultural idea or notion of love make a romance out of everything, but fail to realize that the teacher who is demanding, the worker who is faithful, the person who will not give in to the other jurors to close the case, the parent with challenging accountability “rules” for his/her children, are all giving their love in particular and oftentimes in peculiar ways that we may seldom recognize.

So what is the “to do” for this week? Pulse love and manifest it genuinely in your own way.

If you didn’t send cards for the last “greeting card created” holiday or you just didn’t feel like bothering, stop feeling guilty for how you don’t love and celebrate the idiosyncratic way you do love.

The people who can receive your love will come into your sphere when you just love with the love that you are.

© Dr. William K. Larkin 

Copyright © 2015 The Applied Neuroscience Institute