A huge and significant part of our work is what I call State Of Mind Management.™
We’re learning to work at managing our state of mind by managing not only our thinking, which we’ve tried to do for way too long in cognitive psychology.
We’ve tried to “think our way” to a more positive State Of Mind, as if we could sidestep our feelings.
What we’re talking about here is the wise management of emotions.
Thoughts or feelings?
Which are stronger?
A good rule of thumb is that feelings have the “right of way.” They can run thoughts off the neurohighway. There are exceptions, of course.
Sometimes thoughts are stronger and demand the right of way, but in general everyday mindless thinking, feelings have the right of way, and they certainly have the persistence to get their way over thoughts.
Stronger, mindful thoughts that have direction and intention are different- but how many of those do you have in a day? How many have you set in motion in the last week? State Of Mind Management is about managing your feelings, paying much more attention to your feeling state and to your emotional life.
The fundamental, crucial change is a change in cause and effect. Here’s the scenario: you wait to feel good. You wait for something good “out there” to come along and cause you to feel joy, or peace, or love.
Most of the time, I’m going to say just about all of the time, we make positive emotion the effect of something that is going on outside of us. We’re going to switch that around so just the opposite is true.
We usually make positive emotion the reward for something else that must occur first. Positive and good emotions are seldom the cause; they are the result, and more often than not, the reward for our workaholic efforts to convince ourselves that we deserve them.
What a shame!
State Of Mind Management™ means that you can feel the feelings you choose to feel, on call, anytime, without the need for “something out there” to cause you to feel them.
It’s the “new mindfulness.”
Mindfulness is not just the management of thoughts; it is the management of feeling states . . . an increased realization that we can manage feeling states. Focus is key here.
Focus is everything . . . focus, focus, focus.
And so I ask you, where is your focus?
How are you managing focus? How good are you at focus?
How good are you at attentiveness? How good are you at sustained attention?
How you answer these questions begins to shape your NeuroPositive™ State Of Mind.
We are working here with creating activity and neuropathways of positive emotional associations that predominate in the brain. We want to create neuropathways, positive neuropathways, that are the predominant neuro-associations in the brain.
We can become engineers of positive emotional pathways. But it takes practice and focused intention.