Archive - 2013

Who Gets On Your Nerves?
As Easy As 1, 2, 3
Living In The Light Of The UpSpiral
The Believing Brain
What Is A Mood?
The Lightness Of The UpSpiral
Memorize Peace
How Does Your Mind Wander?
It’s All About Your Vibe
Flow Or “Out Of The Blue?”

Who Gets On Your Nerves?

The signs all around tell us we’re in full holiday mode. And for many, the holidays bring a sense of dread over gatherings with family or friends.

Does someone you know get on your nerves?

It is amazing that what upsets us most about another person; their habits, their hygiene, their noise, their style of conversation, no matter how upset we get and even if we find ways to let the other person know what bothers us, not much really ever changes over the long run.

Most of the time we are simply reinforcing the behavior we detest.

When we forget about it and choose not to focus on it, amazingly enough it seems that the other person does it less often or less loudly, and along with that, there are fewer people coming into our lives who do the same thing that bothered us.

Try this test.

On a scale of 1-10, make a list of the things that are in your way, the problems, the difficulties, the things that seem upsetting.

“10” stands for life changing and “1” stands for not very significant in the long run, not in our power to personally change or fix.

Try it with the things you’re getting upset about. How significant are they? Just try one thing.

Can you change it? Can you fix it? Is it really that important? In the course of your life, how significant are these things you’re upset about?

Most of what bothers us or gets in our way today are things that we cannot change or are, in many cases, things that simply don’t amount to a whole lot.

What is worth lowering your place in your UpSpiral?

What is worth bringing you down and upsetting you?

What is worth setting off the cortisol and major stress hormones in your body?

What is worth the worry about things that haven’t happened and most likely never will?

What is worth bringing yourself down for- something that will likely look very different by tomorrow and be old news three days from now?

Those things that get us going are not usually worth the stress response we give them.

And they’re most often an appeal to the opposite of our strengths.

In life, our weaknesses change very little over time –even with concerted effort.

A small bit of change can alter a lot of things.

Our strengths, however, are infinitely malleable and as they grow and take over our weaknesses; they are better managed and take the center stage of our lives while weaknesses spend more time in the green room of the drama of our lives.

Neuroplasticity, the continual growth of the brain, is tilted on the side of positivity and growth.

We do not undo the established neuropathways of the brain, rather we grow around them and upon them.

We don’t feed the negatives… we grow our strengths.

As Easy As 1, 2, 3

Here’s the formula: E=T3

E is effective

Here are the 3 T’s.

Touch a positive emotion: feel gratitude, peace, love, joy, or hope.

Touch a strength: come from one of your strengths.

Touch a person: brain couple, connect, get the oxytocin flowing.

In the face of any challenge, whether it seems good or bad, stop and feel a positive emotion.

Enlarge that positive emotion and get into a higher place in your UpSpiral.

Getting to a higher place than the level of the challenge enables you to enlarge the scope of your options. You see more and you have a broader perspective and approach. It allows you to come from your strengths rather than reactive weaknesses.

When we brain couple with another person, we connect. We let someone know that we appreciate him or her, that we really hear and feel what they are saying. The more the connection, the more oxytocin will flow.  Oxytocin is a neuropeptide that lowers our defenses, lowers our cortisol (stress levels), and makes us more open to answers and to others.

Oxytocin is the route to the vagus nerve and UpSpiral living

Oxytocin is released when we make real, authentic connections with others. It is this experience of connecting and the “feeling” of like-mindedness that is the key to the release of oxytocin. These moments of connection are what happens when we plug into another person and we fell like they “get us,” they understand us, and we feel a unity that is something like being of “one” mind, of the same mind, or “like-minded.”

It may be just a simple, real connection with another person. It can also be the beginning of a friendship and even romance, because it feels so good to be understood and received.

It is an experience that most people want, even crave –this feeling of being understood, of being received.

We all need it, but some people have grown wary and afraid of this experience, and have shut themselves off from it, and are not open to what it takes for their brain to connect with the brain of another.

One of the significant parts of this connection is the release of oxytocin, a neuropeptide that used to be called the “cuddle hormone.” Now is it seen as more like the “connecting/coupling hormone.”  It is what lets us identify with others.

When brains really “connect,” oxytocin is released and the barriers to openness are let down.

A simple formula…E=T3

Living In The Light Of The UpSpiral

There is a custom in some religions to have a period called “advent” before Christmas.  It is a period of purification and cleansing to be more open to receive the “Christ-life” in a new way at Christmas.

It is a wonderful idea of emptying out the negative.

What can be very surprising, though, is that one of the best ways of washing out the negative, what doesn’t fit and doesn’t belong in us, is to practice growing a positive mind. You will find that as you become more positive, you will have times when the positive pushes up and out what is negative and doesn’t belong.

One would not think that being positive and practicing love, peace, gratitude, joy and hope would lead to anything but “feeling good.”

It does, for sure, but it will also provide a “flushing out” of the negative which is being re-ordered, reorganized, and routinized in different ways in the brain. The Positive Life organizes the brain in a new and different way.

The left frontal lobe is responsible for “routinization” in the brain. That means it is a “router” and sorter of the information intake of the active right frontal lobe. It is interesting that the left frontal lobe is also the “seat” of happiness in the brain. So the part that “sorts” is also the originator of happiness. Growing a positive mind causes this router of information and experience to start working in a different way.

There is solid research showing the relationship of mood and state of mind to the ratio of blood flow to the left and right frontal lobes. This correlation has been made by several researchers, with the most notable recently being an 8 week study with meditators.

Increased ratios of blood flow to the left frontal lobe increases positive mood.

It happens with a particular kind of focus, and I am going to enlarge that focus to include the experience or apprehension of your immediate world with gratitude and appreciation.
Consider the experience of extended appreciation to be the same thing as meditation, because when you do it, it is a profound experience of gratitude/appreciation that alters both present state of mind and the predisposition to your ongoing state of mind.  We call this SOMM (State of Mind Management).

Every single challenge will give me the opportunity of identifying something good in it, and I can find what I like in every person rather than what rubs me the wrong way.  That rub may be surely be there, if I choose to make it my focus.  And even if I do focus on the “rub” I can know that I am really only focusing on something in myself that is not whole, that needs a look that will end in deeper self-acceptance, if I choose to do the work to realize that what rubs me in another is something I reject in myself.

There are a lot of metaphors at this time of year, called solstice, about letting the “light” come into the darkness of the shortest day in the year. There is no question that a negative, DownSpiral mind leads to a kind of “darkness” of mood and rigid thinking that has become fixed in habits that are limiting and narrowing for the brain. Most of the time our negative emotional patterns are learned and there is no great “why” or single explanation other than that they are learned and new ways have to be learned to replace them.

If you are disgruntled and pumping your blood flow in the brain to your right frontal lobe, so you can notice and be aware of more things that are wrong –  most of which you can do nothing about –  your glass will be much less than half full and your mood will be adding the millions of neurons that are constructing neuropathways directly associated with a negative mind, an empty glass and a less than meaningful, flat, if not depressed life.

Just as the “light” increases a little bit each day into spring and summer, so does the life of positivity within us.

We grow just a little more positive each day; the positive emotional muscle increases just a little more with each flex of love, peace, gratitude, joy, and hope.

The Believing Brain

“To know that what is impenetrable to us really exists, manifesting itself as the highest wisdom and the most radiant beauty, which our dull faculties can comprehend only in their primitive forms – this knowledge, this feeling, is at the center of true religion.”


Our idea or notion or belief of what our God is like grows the neuropathways and increases the centers of our brain related to those thoughts and feelings.

If we believe in an angry and punishing god, you actually may cause your brain damage.

We grow the amygdala- the fear-based, anxiety producing part of the brain- and increase our tendency toward fear, dread, and everyday paranoia.

If we believe in the nature of a god that Einstein expresses in the quote above, our brain grows the neuropathways associated with the anterior cingulate, a part of the brain that is more the heart of good and loving feelings and positivity being. This is the research of Dr. Andrew Newberg at the University of Pennsylvania.

Many people believe that Einstein was an atheist. Clearly he was not. Clearly he believed in a god that was beyond an adolescent idea of an old man in the sky who sends our prayer requests down the nightly shipping chute.

What is the highest wisdom and the most radiant beauty and how do we get to experience it?

You are! Inside of you, at the heart of you are gratitude, peace, joy, love, and hope. They are not just feelings, they are states of being that belong to you and are you. Without solving a single problem or talking out any of your problems with anyone, you can right now start this journey inward to the reality of the radiant beauty that exists within you.

Just feel a little gratitude, feel a little peace, a little joy, and then find something to love in yourself and someone else. For example, today throughout the day, say thank-you a hundred times and feel it while you say it, just a little. On a scale of 1-10, if 10 is overwhelming, do it at a 1 or 2.

These inward states are like your muscles: you grow them by using them and exercising them, but first you have to believe that the purpose of all meditation is take you inside of yourself to discover that all of these states are YOU and live inside of you.

They just take a little practice to build and develop over time. You never get perfect at it, but you are already a walking embodiment of gratitude, peace, joy, love, and hope. It is just who you really are, and touching any of these states touches the radiant beauty that is you.

What Is A Mood?

It is “neuroperception” and more.

That’s a fancy word for how we are picking up data that we don’t even know about, about how we are influenced by the comments and reactions of others, the food we eat, the sleep we had, and on and on and on.

And so a mood is created.

Most of all a mood is a DECISION you HAVE NOT MADE. Most of our moods sneak up on us like an unfamiliar odor in the air, or underarm perspiration.

All of the sudden it’s just there and its very real.

We have predilections for moods.  We learn them over time, we get used to certain ones, and we use others to get what we want.

How would you like to be the master of your moods?

There really are some people who would say that they would just like to have their moods take them wherever they lead –just let your mood lead to the next thing in your life.

These are the individuals who rely on the “serendipity” of life, and in so doing, have unleashed the power of a “meandering brain.” Certainly not the most efficient use of the brain’s psychic energy.

These individuals should go somewhere else –this is not for them.

This is for that group of people who want to be the master of the their moods, who want to make decisions about what moods will take them to what places.

If this is you, keep reading.

Our moods start with very, very small things. Let’s just take one example. A friend says something to you out of the blue that was not intended to be critical, but you take it personally and it just bothers the heck out of you. You keep thinking and thinking about it, and it causes you to draw inside yourself and brood while you try to keep smiling on the outside.

You go on with your day, but it’s eating away at you, and you even say, “It affected my whole mood.” Mostly like what your friend said was not intended to do that at all. However, the fact that it did is significant.

How do you not dwell on something that you want to examine, dwell on, and get at without changing your mood?

Note it.

That’s right, just note it. Write it down or make a mental note that in the evening, when you can give your full attention, you will talk this over with someone, write about it, or investigate it.

But, and this is important, as you just MAKE A NOTE OF IT,  say the word “gratitude” and feel the feeling. Be grateful that you have something to investigate about yourself later on in the day.

By the evening, you will have a very different perspective about this. You’ll be too tired or you’ll understand what was said to you from a different perspective; it will seem less significant, and you will be able to look at it from a different angle.

And if there is something to learn, you’ll be able to do it.

What’s the bottom line of all of this? Moods begin with small things that we continue to focus upon, usually to our detriment, especially if they are bad moods. If you are in a good mood, do everything you can to keep that mood going. Find a beautiful word like peace or gratitude or love and chant it all day long, and do things that make you notice how beautiful your world is. Make it your intent that every time you see something negative, you will find something good, something positive in it or around it.

MOST OF ALL, make the decision that you control your moods and develop the strategies that make you the master of your life.

We call this State of Mind Management (SOMM) and we are experts at it. And we are experts at teaching you how to manage mood in your life and in the life of others.

Your state of mind rules your life and your focus is everything. You become what your focus is sustained to be.

The Lightness Of The UpSpiral

Mary said to nosey Sandra (toxic and always willing to listen to any dirt), “Look, I made a list of everything that was wrong with him, and it just goes on and on and on.”

Of course it did. If you start to notice something wrong with your husband, wife, or significant other, it will lead your brain on to the next thing and the next thing and the next thing.

Then after you focus on several things that are wrong with the other person, you start to tear the scab off all the things you thought you had forgiven a long time ago, and the present wound just digs a deeper and deeper hole of despair, wondering if anything will ever be different.

You want to be alone?

When you start to focus on something someone has done wrong, it grows and leads to the next thing. It just has its own kind of energy –that track of negativity. As long as you stay hurt and nurse your hurt, that negativity will grow. Is your hurt justified?

How long do you want to justify it? If your answer is “until the other person changes or comes crawling,” you are likely going to wait a long time. Your anger or isolating will change nothing over the long-term.

The next thing I’m going to say is hard to believe, but it’s true. If you can focus on what is best in the other person and keep your eye on what is good about them, and believe in that, more change will occur in the long term than if you go on the attack or isolate, shutting them out.

If you decide to write down everything that is good about someone, ANOTHER KIND OF ENERGY SETS IN.

It is like something sacred that grows. It is I think a kernel of THE sacred in life. You are on another track in your brain. I call it “the sacred track.” That list will grow and grow and grow. And if you will make an honest attempt at this, you will feel differently when the list is done.

If someone you love is bothering you with something you don’t like,  and it’s just leading to talk and talk and talk or think and think and think about what’s wrong with them, STOP. Change tracks and make a list of everything that is good about them. At first it will be difficult, especially if you are already enveloped in a negative charge or negative set of feelings in their direction. But keep going, one little good thing after another, and you will find that it gets easier, and that the energy you create actually starts to distance you from the negative feelings. You start to lighten up.


There is UpSpiral energy and there is DownSpiral energy. When we find fault and get upset and angry, reactive and stuck, we start to DownSpiral. That cuts off our access to our options and to the varieties of our perception. WE BECOME NARROWER. We begin to see only one thing, and that is what is wrong with another person.

Make a list of the positive attributes or qualities of a person you care about but are bent out of shape about. Stop the focus on the negative, stop talking about IT, stop thinking about IT, and list their positive attributes. It can be a hard thing to do, because negative focus is very powerful. We are very focused on the negative because we are problem-solvers (at least we think we are) and we are fixers.

We want everything we don’t like to be and go our way. And since that isn’t going to be the case with people who are diverse, the best thing to do is to find the common ground of what we know to be good about another person.

In a relationship of love, this is especially difficult because we get the idea that the other person is supposed to make us happy, and when they don’t, we get mad and hurt. It is no one’s job to keep you happy except yourself. But that gets lost in the hurt and the negative feelings. One of the fastest ways to regain your footing with your own happiness is to make a list of what is right and good about the person that is making you so angry. You are not going to fix them. You are not going to change them. So, give it a try, make your list of positive things about the person you care about that is making you angry.

Change your energy from a negative focus to a positive one.

The happiest couples with the longest relationships of quality see the other person better than the other person sees themselves. That’s one of the strongest clues to the longest “loves.”

A DownSpiral can lead you to the deepest despair over a single negative act of another as you focus more and more on what is wrong.

An UpSpiral of seeing and knowing the good can make your gaze upon the one you love more transforming than a laser.

It is this laser of love that people try to live up to, try to match, try to attain, and want to be for someone who believes in them.


Memorize Peace

…and a time that evoked it!

Create a mental link that can transform your reactivity.

Fight/flight seems like our instinctual response to stress.

But there is another choice, and it is calm/connect.

You really do have a choice, but you have to exercise the choice over time for it to work for you in difficult times, when you want to have a cool head.

Here’s the formula. Commit to memory the experience of peace. Pulse it inside yourself. Say and feel “peace, peace, peace” 10 times, then do it 20 times like you were lifting weights that become easier and easier. The important part of this exercise is to feel the emotion. You have to get to the emotion with immediacy, like the snap of your finger. Be a personal “peace” expert. Get to the place where you can evoke a feeling of peace, at your decision, and get there immediately.

Sound impossible? Here’s an added help. Also memorize a time or times when you were peaceful. Imagine two or three, and when the feeling seems hard to reach, imagine these scenes or times in your mind.

These are precious memories, and the emotions they carry are strategic ways of accessing a reaction that help you back off from stress, from reacting too quickly, and from not having the cool head you want.

Peace is an emotion that exercises the “calm and connect” part of the brain, the anterior cingulate, rather than the racy, zippy, angry amygdala which is so ready to jump and make you say things you wish you had not said.

You can literally command your emotional life by memorizing emotional states that you want to work for you.

Let me give you an example. I have very busy days, lots of chatter, lots of emails, lots of decisions, lots of reacting, and I am on, on, on most of the day. Letting down and being with those I love and care about is a challenge. I can’t just walk away from my workday and be Dr. Happy immediately in an evening situation with friends and family. I have to switch channels emotionally. I do this by pulsing joy. Oftentimes it seems to be the feeling furthest from my tired and over worked psyche, but I begin to pulse “joy.”

I say it and FEEL it over and over and over, and I think of times and things that give me joy. I have two that never fail, and I keep them in reserve when it’s especially difficult to make this shift. But I can get there in a very short time. I get there as much as it is my intention to so do, but even more important, is my PRACTICED ability to do it.

I can get to a positive emotion of love, peace, gratitude, joy or hope as quickly as I have learned to react with anger, disapproval, disdain, boredom, and rejection. You can learn to do the same.

It is simply not possible to have positive emotion available to you if you haven’t practiced it, memorized it, and have a command over using it.

The purpose of meditation is to slow us down to touch these feelings inside of us. But there is a faster way.

Instead of waiting for these positive emotions, like love, to happen as a reaction to something on the outside of you, fake it till you make it. More important, fake it till you become them. And I promise that you will.

Memorize peace.

Start there.

How Does Your Mind Wander?

Researchers report that 43% of our waking time is spent with our mind wandering to this or that. That’s a lot of time, whatever is the exact amount.

What is it for you? Consider what it would mean if you reclaimed that vast untapped resource and focused it on being happy. Researchers also tell us that the most direct correlation is between happiness and positive affect. That means that happiness is directly related to how much positive emotion we feel.

How much positive emotion do you feel?

Here is the crunch. If you wait for circumstances like success, money, winning, love, and good fortune to come, you might be waiting for a long time while, at the same time, you are controlled by outside circumstances.

Consider this. If you took part of the 43% of time that you spend with a wandering mind and put 10 percent of that time working out your mind in a particular way that increased positive mood and good feeling, would you do it? Especially if it costs nothing except a little effort?

Here is part of the problem. We wait for something outside of ourselves, some circumstance to happen before we can be happy. Is happiness intrinsic?

Or does it really take something “else,” one more thing, one more success, money or more money, just the “right” relationship, to make us happy?

Should it require that our children, our partner, spouse, or our parents be happy before we can be happy?  No.

Our happiness may well be their clearest guide and challenge to have it for themselves.

All of these things can make us feel happier, but they are not at the core of the issue of what sustains happiness. If happiness is intrinsic and lies within you, then you cannot afford to rely on outside resources to produce it.

If there was ever a place for self-reliance, it is in your ability to control the level of your own happiness in a much more strategic way.

During this time when your mind wanders, practice feeling gratitude and smile 20 times. Then do the same thing with peace, joy, love and hope. Run each of these through an exercise that will take less than 10 minutes. The exercise is far more fruitful that worrying about things in the future, 85% of which do not happen.

You can be happy simply by choosing and practicing the feelings of happiness until they become second nature. But you may ask, “Don’t I need a reason to be happy?”

The answer is no, none at all. However, isn’t it true that when we take stock and lift our consciousness with gratitude that we can be happy to live, happy to breathe, happy to know life, happy for a thousand things if we choose to focus there?

Abraham Lincoln said, “A man is about as happy as he chooses to be.” Those have been wise words for me because they are as much about choice and focus as they are about happiness.

Feel the feelings you want to feel. At ANI, in all of our training, we teach both professionals and lay people that feelings can be trained and guided, and that we can get as good at feeling positive feelings as we have become at feeling the negatives.

It’s All About Your Vibe

“The goal of life is to make your heartbeat match the beat of the universe, to match your nature with nature.”

Joseph Campbell

This is your “vibe.” We call it Vibe Core. Your Vibe Core is the combination of:

1. Knowing what you want.
2. Believing you will get it.
3. Being open to however that might come.

Want+Belief+Openess= Your Vibe Core Score

Take each item and decide on a scale of 1-100 how much you have of each of these.

If 1 is none at all, desperation, and not being able to want, and 100 is knowing and being definite, give yourself a score in all three, add them up, and divide them by 3.

How clearly do you KNOW?
How much do you BELIEVE? (Yes, how much IS important)
How OPEN are you?

Your score gives you a subjective idea of where you are on all three of these dimensions and what the strength or consistency of your personal “vibration” is.

Your score will tell us how much of a hold you have on these three dimensions and how likely you will be in acquiring or accomplishing what you really, really want.

Unfortunately, we can’t as yet measure this Vibe Core in terms of the energy you exert when your score is really high. But by observation what we know is that those who know what they want, believe they are going to get it, and are open to all the ways that might happen, get what they want most of the time.

What is most interesting is that we really do know where to score ourselves on each of these dimensions. We might be kidding ourselves or not facing what is really true, but we usually know pretty much where we are on a subjective level. A part of us always knows the truth.

It is being “tepid” or “lukewarm” that gets almost everybody in trouble. When you are lukewarm on any of these dimensions, there are consequences that make our lives seem less desirable than they might otherwise be.

We flatline.

What is interesting is that it does take people a while to really get honest with themselves. And very often when people do, they change on each of these three dimensions.

Your Vibe Core is something people read on an unconscious level almost immediately. We have this thing called “neuroperception” that gives us a sensory, unconscious take on other people and their “vibe” before we know we are getting it. Call it intuition, call it whatever you wish. We do plug into another person’s VibeCore.

Just consider that you have 40,000 muscles in your face alone that other people read unconsciously before you ever open your mouth.

We match the beat of the universe when we are most being and planning in the direction that makes us most who we really are. We are most out of kilter or out of sorts when one of these three dimensions is working against us, instead of for us.

In our NeuroPositive Life Course we teach people how to get in touch with what their Vibe Core is and what they want it to be. We teach them that the degree you use your strengths is the degree to which you really believe you will get what you want. We teach people how to experience “flow”, a state in which what we really want is much more likely to be revealed to us.

Get into “flow” and what you really wants comes bubbling to surface. And we teach people to be open to all of the packages that what we really want can come wrapped in. Oftentimes, what we really want is right in front of us but we can see it because we are blinded by too narrow an expectation of how what we want should appear.

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Flow Or “Out Of The Blue?”

Experiences that come to us “out of the blue” with good and great things seem to be very serendipitous. What if they were not so out of the blue as we might think?  What if they happen at times when we are in a particular state of personal vibration?

This personal vibe is our energy field that is a combination of knowing what we want, believing we will get it, and being open to however it will come.

This vibe is what brings us the “flow” of our lives.  It is “flow” that we get into that is like being “one with the music.”  This vibration is about novelty, and how much novelty we are able to allow into our lives.

The opposite would be how much we choke off life and demand satisfaction from the world around us in ways that become narrower and narrower.

Chaos “theory” refers to how random a system can be and how full it can be of different ideas, notions, facets, and particularly of novelty.  Chaos here is the potential to allow novelty, newness or differentness.  It is the capacity to tolerate and allow “otherness” and diversity in our lives.

Put differently, when you know what you want, believe you’re going to get it, and are open to all the ways it can happen, or at least on the way to this, you’re beginning to experience “flow” in life.  You begin to be cool or easy with a way of life that is one with the music –things seem to be more of a whole. 

When that happens over time you are going to find that there is more chaos, in terms of novelty and diversity in your life.

You will also experience or try to experience greater differentiation.  However, allowing chaos (novelty) and differentiation in your life is not always an easy thing.

The more you practice and work on your “vibe,” what we call your “VibeCore” of knowing what you want, believing you will get it, and being open to how it will happen, the more you experience a “flow” in life.  You just get into a pace where life is flowing and you are going with it.  There are ups and downs but you are, for the most part, in an UpSpiral.  Life flows more.

There are times when our world goes “shake, shake, shake” and there is the rumble and tumble of an earthquake of old ideas and old ways of doing things falling aside because they don’t work anymore.  Things that used to satisfy no longer satisfy.  Relationships that used to be fun may now seem a little stale and unfulfilling.  Even the food you eat may taste differently.

It is time to let new things into your world.  To become increasingly open and diverse to the new things the Universe is giving can seem particularly complex, if not downright puzzling.

As you can experience a higher VibeCore and more of the flow of being in a more confident place, the Universe is freer to give to you doorways that don’t seem like answers.

Novelty and diversity aren’t always easy, but they are usually very exciting.

What this does is open you to the experience of greater chaos (novelty and newness) and differentiation (seeing thing from a wider and wider and more whole perspective).  When this happens your life shifts.  It shifts big very quickly or it shifts a little at a time and you find yourself in transition.  And transition can feel like very new territory and sometimes like our usual understanding of the word “chaos.”

So don’t be thrown because you are beginning to change in some particular ways.  You are growing and the best way to support this growth is to be increasingly open to all of the diverse ways that what we want can come to us.  Oftentimes, this is what seems like “out of the blue.”

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