All of the popular advice is to “think outside the box.” But in this season of holiday cheer, we can get hard-pressed to find the cheer or the UpSpiral, if we have a vague sense of being taken over by something that starts to roll in like a storm, beginning with Christmas decorations in stores just after the Halloween scene goes down. God forbid that you should be called a “Scrooge,” and so you must ho-ho-ho with the best of them as you belt down another rum-laced eggnog.
Perhaps, though, it’s a great time to stay inside this box and let it do its work. Some of my favorite work on projection was created by Byron Katie. I strongly recommend her books and her website where you can watch her in action. I believe she’s a modern-day saint. If one of the requirements is to have worked a miracle, she has worked many of them.
It’s really simply this. In this box of holiday cheer- materialism, money, longing for more, more, more, and conscious of having less and less- let’s see if we can get in a place in the box where the goodness of the season, where its spirit can touch us and spiral us upward.
In Katie’s work, you ask yourself four questions and then do a turn around.
1. Is it true?
2. Is it absolutely true?
3. How do I feel when I think this way?
4. How do I feel when I just put this out of my mind?
5. The turn-around
Let’s go to #5, the turn-around. Suppose you say, “I can’t stand all the expectations that are upon me during this season.”
The turn-around could be any of these:
I put these expectations upon me.
I allow others to put these expectations on me.
There are no real expectations upon me. I create them for myself.
I can’t stand myself for the expectations I put on myself all the time.
Where do you do it and how do you do it? When you get a sense of the turn-around statement that seems to fit, you’re on you’re way into the UpSpiral.
Only then do you get outside the box.
Some suggestions for the blog:
1. What is not right at this moment? What “should” be going on in another’s life? Or “out there” in general? What is this “in the box” thinking ready to teach you?
2. What holiday expectation rubs you the wrong way most? Run this belief through the 4 questions and then do a turn-around.