Mindfulness is the new way of talking about the effects and benefits of meditation, in one form or another, without grounding it in a religious or spiritual tradition or as a religious practice. It really means the ability to use one's mind to gain agility in handling one's brain and its automatic and even sometimes autonomic way of operating. Meditation, now mindfulness, so we can get its benefits into public schools and other places, helps us loosen ourselves from our attachment to automatic thinking and boring, learned usual feelings, and to back off from them so we have more control over them and greater freedom from stress, anger, rage and just feeling flat.
It helps us to tap into the very real inner reservoir within us that is love, peace, gratitude, joy and hope. There is a sweet, simple, better way and you don't have to sell out to a church, yoga, centering, past life regression, or breath work or any other kind of “woo-woo” to get there. It's very simple. You just learn to go for it.
In “mindfulness,” the attention is still on the cognitive or “thinking” processes of the brain. And given to the academicians and researchers, it has to become complex. It takes a lot of complexity to explain something that is very simple. And mindfulness is very, very simple. It's not that mindfulness doesn't work. It is just very tedious and boring. It does, though, make those who are “mindful” seem especially enlightened. Unfortunately, carpenters, mechanics, and blue collar-workers are not always inclined to go there. Neither are active people who have trouble sitting still and counting their breathing. Silent retreats don't tend to work for the chatty or for the person who has to work everyday to meet the rent.
There is a short-cut that it is not just a short-cut. It is the way to go. Try it and see. At the end of the day, all of this amounts to what you can and can't do with your emotions. Your emotions are parts of your state of mind that can be increasingly managed. The five most important ones are gratitude, love, peace, joy and hope. The meditators and the mindfulness folks hope that you will find some way of managing your thoughts that will eventually create some experience with love, joy, peace, gratitude, and hope and that you will become less stressed and less bitchy.
Here's where we stand. Why not just go for the emotions and the state of mind that you want? If the idea is to bypass all the thinking and cognitive “rigamarole,” why not just do it? You can create them, you can practice them, you can master them and you can have great agility over these positive emotions. Go right for love, peace, gratitude, joy and hope. Go for growing and developing positive emotional “muscle” that will let you get to love or joy instantly. Sound like a tall order? This mastery and agility with positive emotion will give much, much more control over negative emotion.
We have the proof that it can be done. They are the actual people who make up the statistics; that is our proof. And you can be our proof, because you can do this too. You can get to joy immediately, if you learn to do it. (I swear you can.) You can make joy last (duration) if you learn to do it. If you by-pass the thinking mind (which is the big deal with mindfulness) and you go straight for the emotion, it's like the short-cut on your computer. You can push your button and you are there. We know. We do it every day with everyday people -our everyday mystics who are also soccer moms.
Inside of you, I promise, exists the state of love, peace, gratitude, joy and hope. You just have to start tripping the switch that will turn them on, and turn them on you can. And you can do it in a relatively short amount of time. You can experience results in a week. Even the research shows that to be true.
You are, inside of you, at your very core, love, peace, gratitude, joy, peace and hope. These states live inside of you and they are waiting for you to say hello to them and let them out. We can teach you how to increase your UpSpiral Score, which means to grow in “feeling good,” and to exercise these positive emotional muscles. We can teach to grow positive emotional muscle with enough skill and agility that you have “mindfulness” at your command.
This is all about doing our Emotional Gym. All of these states of mind are like little shriveled up balloons on the inside of you. When you start to practice, it's like blowing up a very “tight” balloon. Some people are tighter than others because they haven't felt joy in 20 years. They've been waiting for it to “hit” them from outside rather than realize that they have to mine for it on the inside.
It's all within you and you can be full of love, peace, gratitude, joy and hope because you already are. It's like mining for gold; the gold is there– you just have to know how to reach it.
Welcome to the mindfulness of the new millennium. It's super easy and you'll be super successful, even if you're a crank, ornery and a crab. If you do the work we can teach you. Mindfulness? Yes, but it's just the same old thing with new a new wrap. Let us get you to the real stuff much quicker and teach you how to stay there.
Yes, yes, I know. The people who cross their legs are not going to like this anymore than the people who make the white baggy outfits you're supposed to do this in. Neither are the people who make candles, bells, scents, music that make you fall asleep, and those who teach you to breath six different ways. The people who teach you to go into past lives are not going to like it all -can you imagine having to deal with more than one lifetime? Give me a break. None of this is wrong. It can be helpful, fun, and very healthy, but it's not essential to mindfulness. Honestly, this is something you can do on the toilet, in the shower, and when the bastard on the highway cuts you off. In fact, as you learn to do it at those moments, you will start to become a “master.”
But wait a minute, they are yelling. “What about going deeper and deeper?” Screw deeper, let's talk in terms of “better” and “feeling good.” The Emotional Gym teaches you to go deeper, to get to an emotion instantly (you can do it, I promise.) Then learn to make it last for a while (duration.) I promise you can do it. Finally, increase the feeling you choose to feel it at a higher level for a while (intensity.) That, too, I promise you can do. I have never met anyone who couldn't learn to do this -and without the mat and the incense -or fancy words like “mindfulness.”
Now, take a deep breathe, exhale slowly, and thank whatever god you believe in (or don't) that you can feel, gratitude, love, peace, joy and hope with great mastery and agility (even over negative emotion) and that your life can move to a level, really quite simply, that you didn't think was possible. We can show you how.