Once you encounter the concept that there is an UpSpiral and a DownSpiral, and it can be quantified by your own subjective experience, life is never quite the same in terms of how you view it. That is because you now have a way of seeing your experience that you didn’t have before. You know whether or not you are in an UpSpiral and you know when you are in a DownSpiral, and are not doing the things you need to do to get out of it and stay out of it.
Your choices have been increased by a new way of looking at your own experience. And once you have spent more time in the UpSpiral, you aren’t going to want to be anywhere but there again. You will learn what you need to learn to stay there and you will do what you have to do to be in a better-feeling place that is within your grasp.
This is an enormous piece of personal empowerment. You always know that the choice about where you want to be in the UpSpiral is yours, not external events. Even though there can be things that drag us down, we know we don’t want to stay there.
The longer you remain in an UpSpiral and the more practiced you become, and have the agility and mastery of positive emotional states, the more you realize that all of your life can be lived there by your choice. But it takes time and learning and practice.
The more you decide that outside events will not determine whether you are in an UpSpiral or a DownSpiral, the more you will be able to do so.
Every thought you think and every feeling you feel is affecting the structure of your brain. We are becoming what we think and feel. We are always growing neuropathways according to our experience. In learning to live in an UpSpiral, you are changing the structure of the neuropathways in your brain. They will begin to line up differently. As you develop and use new more powerful neuropathways of positivity, the old ones are going to find themselves in a kind of “neuroplastic war.”
The old neuropathways die a slow death. Literally they are deprived of oxygen and glucose as they cease to be used, and they will fight back to live.
Here we want to reverse the cause and effect of positive emotions. We treat positive emotions as though they are the rewards or the outcomes of living in some sort of way. Something will make us grateful, an event will give us joy, a relationship will give us love, a goal will give us hope, and a pill will give us some peace.
Positive emotions are treated as though they are the results of things on the outside, happening to us in a certain kind of way, and when the stars line up, or our problems get solved, or people line up in a certain way, then the result will be our joy or our gratitude.
Positive emotions are often results oriented, and we get to have them when something happens on the outside of us that creates that response in us. What underlies all of this is that you have to have a reason to feel positive emotions, and that reason is almost always on the outside of us.
Feel the feelings of love, peace, gratitude, joy, and hope by choice, for no reason, whenever you want to! There is no reason to rely on outside forces to give you these experiences. You may wait a long time before something comes along and makes you feel joy.
Feel joy, just because you can, whenever you want to. You can feel all of these feelings instantly, for as long as you want, as intensely as you would like. It just takes some practice and the choice not to live your life directed by outside events.