Dr. William K. Larkin
At the core of meaning-making are not goal-setting and visioning.
These can certainly be an important part of the “revealing” process.
However, meaning-making refers to the way in which you put it all together into your “world view” of things.
Meaning making is about how you make sense of things. How you remember is just as important as what you remember.
How we see things, how we create our boundaries, what are our real “reals,” what is good, what is bad, what works, what doesn’t work.
These are the things of meaning making.
What MOST GETS IN THE WAY of change and forward progress in making meaning in your life?
The answer is mind-busting.
It is what you like best about yourself, what most informs your self-image, and what gives the greatest sense of importance.
It is what works well now.
What works for us best, most gets in the way of novelty and change.
Our whole self-image, we believe, is tied to it. Challenging the existing neuropathways of the brain is a big deal!
Yes, one of the things that keeps us in our way of making meaning is what we think we really, really have going for us, what we believe really works, really makes sense, and really gives us significance and esteem.
Our biggest obstacle to change is what gives us the greatest sense of esteem, personal importance, and significance. What we do best gets most in the way of our change and forward movement.
How could that possibly be true?
Just remember this: what you think is best and most significant to your self-image is your biggest block to change.
What you think you got going for you most gets in the way of the unfolding structures of reasoning trying to unfold and mature in your brain.
How you believe your strengths best work for you most gets in the way of learning the new ways that your strengths could really work for you.
It is the central feature of aging that is marked by decline.