What do you suppose happens if you spend time shining the light on the dark side of you? You’re right. You grow your dark side. But how can this be? There are so many healers and facilitators of groups watching DVDs, leading people to investigate their dark side, wallow in their hurts, dig them out, raise them up and get them healed. Just what is the healing? The healing is that after you have gone through all of the exercises that essentially blame the way you are on your past, that this dark side morphs into something else to dig up and you have more dark side to process the next time. It just never ends. And there is no research to support it. There is also no theology, except one of dualism, that supports it. All of this is the product of self-proclaimed, half-baked psychological types, poorly trained who want to exert power over others and sell books and DVDs that never get you past the negative core beliefs they contend they do.
Shine the light on the positive and you get a quite different result with “positivity being.” In an UpSpiral that is supported by your real strengths, you shed the skins of the past. They simply are not issues because you are getting on with your life, and getting on with your life heals more than anything else, more quickly and more pervasively. Digging out the past at a time proclaimed by “healers” is dangerous and unhealthy and it grows the problem by focusing attention there. In quantum physics, it is called the Zeno Effect.
It is true that in an UpSpiral, you will encounter negativity within yourself and you will also encounter negative patterns that have a history. However, you encounter them at the “right” time, when you are in a positive place. You can look at them in your way, from your strengths, and make decisions about changing both beliefs and behavior. The negative will be less, you will have much more resilience to deal with it, and you will spend minimal amounts of time and energy there. You won’t have to buy a book, buy a DVD, or spend money on workshop led by “certified” dark side shadow chasers. You have every strength you need to deal with any negative core beliefs, negative patterns, or negative memories that exist within you. The issue is not your past. You are not a victim of it, and its power exists only in the attention that you give to it.
Stop chasing your dark side and embrace the light of living in an UpSpiral of positivity. When you do, all of the research shows that you will grow beyond what you think holds you back, you will increase your resilience, you will be less bothered by the negative for less time, and you will be less reactive.
So sorry you spend all that time chasing your dark side. You are filled with wonderful significant strengths that will keep you in an UpSpiral and give you the power to deal with any negativity from being “on top of it” rather than in a DownSpiral of it being on top of you. Don’t let anyone tell you that you have dig out the negative before you can feel “positivity being” and be in an UpSpiral. It just isn’t true.