It is “allowing” one’s good to come in a spirit of openness and some abandon. “I know that what I want will come to me and I am open to whatever way that happens and in whatever time-frame that happens.”
We know that the way to increase a sense of knowing “what you want” is to increase your UpSpiral. It just becomes clearer but it probably also becomes more profuse. In an UpSpiral we are more in touch with what we want but may also experience a greater and greater, always growing diversity of wants and desires. Flexing one’s strengths also adds to a knowledge of what our real and true wantings really are. They begin to emerge by being specific and forming them into goals, but from there these goals morph and change as our experience of moving toward what we want increases.
We know that one’s sense of believing that what I want will happen to me is increased by playing more and more to one’s strengths. When I am full of doubt, I am not using my strengths. When I come from my strengths and live in my strengths, I believe more and more that what I want is what I will get. The sense of believing is anchored in using our strengths.
But how do we grow this sense of being “open,” this sense of “allowing?” It grows by realizing that “expectation” is necessary-that we expect good to come to us, as just a way of life. It naturally seems to us that our good will come to us. But what is the nature of this expectation, how does it grow? It grows when we realize that the out-picturing or that the evidence of gratitude more and more fully experienced is generosity of spirit. We become freer and freer in giving and sharing. We get better and better at keeping our resources in circulation. We become more generous people. We “pay it ahead” and we give knowing as we give that we give to that level that just increases our expectations that the “good stuff” is coming our way. However, we have to move expectation into an active place. When I plant seeds, I expect them to grow. When I water my plants, I expect them to bloom. Expectation is not presumption; it is just quite simply, allowing. Expectation is not wrong; it is just a “given” as my experience of living in the spirit of abundance, generosity and gratitude.
Gratitude that is lived out and played out expresses itself in the sure expectations that the good I do returns to me. Just consider this- it has worked with “guilt” for a long time. We have believed that the bad we do will do us in and we feel guilt. Time to turn the tables. Having learned our lessons from mistakes and shortcomings, we now turn to giving, an abundant spirit that shares who we are and especially what we have and know. Allowing and expecting comes from outplaying our gratitude by giving and being generous.
Give to the level that loosens your expectations of good things coming your way. And you will know inside of you when you are there -it just sort of feels right and good. You know if you’re stingy and where. You also know if these words “stingy and tight” are stinging for you. You don’t have to give away the store, strip off your clothes and walk naked down the street. St. Francis has been there and done that! Be more creative and see if you can do it in a way that vibrates with your own truth and sensibilities. This is the beginning of responsible personal philanthropy. Be your own philanthropist but realize that you cannot “out give” the Universe. Let your gratitude lead you to give “you” away in creative and right ways for you. And loosen up in the process, let your tightness and cheapness go. And then “expect” the great stuff.
Start with where you are cheap. Maybe give a waiter an extra dollar. Give a little more that loosens where you are tight. But even more important, where you are generous, start expecting and looking for your good to come to you from all the surprising places. It will make its move to return the promises of the Law of Circulation and the Law of Reciprocity to you. You think the law of gravity is real? Try these!