You will only stay in an UpSpiral of feeling good by using your strengths. Your strengths can take any problem you encounter and give you the skills and answers to work through it, by simply using them.
There is nothing you can encounter that your strengths will not be a match for, bringing you to growth and solutions.
However, it is very easy, especially at first, to forget what your strengths are. In a DownSpiral, your strengths don’t even seem real, if in fact, you can even remember what they are. It is amazing to see a person in a DownSpiral struggle to even name their strengths. And if they do, it is usually reluctantly and disgustedly, as if somehow their strengths don’t work.
There is not a situation in your life that your strengths can’t address. You have a perfect set of them.
If you’ve been through our testing process and you can name your strengths, you are on the path to personal growth.
Instead of concentrating on your weaknesses and trying to change them and getting nowhere, you have learned that by growing your strengths, your weaknesses fall into your ability to manage them effectively.
We have not been conditioned to look to our strengths, but we have been conditioned to remember our weaknesses.
There are even some people who report that they feel guilty when they use their strengths because they were discouraged from doing the things they loved or were good at because it came too easy for them. They were told that they should struggle more. Work didn’t seem like work unless they were doing something that was exhausting, using too much psychic energy, and was an attempt to become good at things that were not their strengths.
Weaknesses are merely the other end of our strengths. In fact, they point to the directions of what our strengths really are.
But from the first red check marks on our school papers, or even before, we have learned what is wrong with us much better than we have learned what is good about us.
Whenever I test a group of people and ask them to write down their strengths, they can usually only list one or two that are actually accurate; they are much better at listing their weaknesses.
Going to a strength, playing to a strength, thinking from a strength is foreign behavior for most people. When we are troubled, stressed and worried or frustrated for very long, it is easy to go to our weaknesses and to play from the opposite end of our strengths. Read the testimonials on our website about people who have learned to play to their strengths.
And then tell us your stories about your encounter with your strengths and how you use them.
You never become a well-balanced or a “whole” person, whatever in the world that might be, by trying to correct your weaknesses.
You become more of who you authentically are by playing to your strengths and letting them guide you to your own inner brilliance.
© Dr. William K. Larkin