Do thoughts create the feelings we have or do our feelings create our thoughts? Does changing your thinking change your feelings or are your thoughts the captive of your mood or feeling state?
It is both and that’s what undoes much of the “positive thinking” movement. Monitoring your thoughts and always trying to be positive helps, but you can’t do it all the time and it just isn’t the whole picture, not by a long shot. Thoughts can change feelings, but emotions and feelings can also change thoughts.
For example, negative self-talk that goes on inside your head is a combination of both feelings and thoughts.
Feelings and thoughts travel on the same neuropathways and it usually feelings that get the right of way, particularly the stronger or more persistent they are. If you get really, really persistent with positive thinking, it will pick up speed and power, though.
So what’s the solution? The solution is not only to change your negative thinking. It’s also the decision to change your negative feelings. But don’t change your negative feelings by force or by denial. Change your negative feelings by learning to do what we have never really learned to do. Learn to feel positive emotion and practice feeling positive feelings. Learn to feel love, peace, gratitude, joy and hope “on call.”
Some negative feelings give us important information about what not to do and other negative feelings are habits, patterns and just automatic negative feelings. Just don’t live in negative feeling; let them tell you to get to a positive place.
“Positivity Being” is where it’s at. At ANI, we teach you that in our Emotional Gym and we teach you how to discern between negative feelings that are a message and negative feelings that are like gnats buzzing around in your head.
Positive thinking alone will not do it. We have to learn to develop positive emotional muscle. It doesn’t come automatically. Many folks are as much slaves to negative emotions as they are to negative thoughts.