Archive - February 2017

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Your Brain On Flow & “Chaos”
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Flow Is “Just This”
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The “Open Doors” Of Your Life
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The Secret To Letting Go

Your Brain On Flow & “Chaos”

Brain Chaos

It is the brain state of “flow” that we get into that is like being “one with the music.”

It points us in our emotions and thoughts more toward the experience of inner connectedness, making our lives much more an experience of “oneness.”

“Flow” is interestingly enough really about chaos and differentiation.

We define “chaos” as novelty.

It is about novelty and how much novelty we are able to allow into our lives. The opposite would be how much we choke off life and demand satisfaction from the world around us in ways that become narrower and narrower.

The opposite of chaos might be addiction or any other form of extreme narrowing.

Differentiation means the ability to allow things to be diverse and different –to be “other” than us without fear or intimidation of their “otherness” or “differentness.”

Life is about as interesting as the amount of chaos and differentiation we allow into our world.

Remember, chaos here doesn’t necessarily mean chaotic in the sense of everything out of order and gone awry, but chaos in terms of the ability to allow and tolerate wider and wider, larger and larger spaces of things that are different and don’t seem to make sense, but actually do.

Chaos “theory” refers to how random a system can be and how full it can be of different ideas, notions, facets, and particularly, of novelty.

Chaos here is the potential to allow novelty, newness or differentness. It is the capacity to tolerate and allow “otherness” and diversity in our lives.

Too little chaos or differentiation in a system means that things get boring, because the “same old, same old” keeps showing up.

Here’s the main theme: the greater the “flow,” the greater the novelty and differentiation.

Put differently, when you know what you want, believe you’re going to get it, and are open to all the ways it can happen, or at least on the way to this, you’re beginning to experience “flow” in life.

You begin to be cool or easy with a way of life that is one with the music –things seem to be more of a whole.

When that happens over time you are going to find that there is more chaos, in terms of novelty and diversity in your life. You will also experience or try to experience greater differentiation.

However, allowing chaos (novelty) and differentiation in your life is not always an easy thing. The better you are at getting into flow, the easier it will be.

The more used to a more frequent and consistent experience of flow you become, the more you will be capable of increasing novelty and differentiation.

The more difficult this is for you, the “tighter” and narrower you are.

The whole process of flow aims to open you up.

Where in your life are you most open to “chaos” and expanding differentiation?

© Dr. William K. Larkin 

Flow Is “Just This”

Flow Light

When we dance, the dance is what matters. It is “just this,” just the dance. When we paint a picture it is “just this.” When we make love it is “just this.”

UNTIL THE EGO STEPS IN and asks, “HOW AM I DOING?” We kill it when we start to judge and evaluate and compare. Can you imagine making love and thinking, “how am I doing?” or thinking about what you have to do with the kids or what you have to get at the market?

You know we all do it.

Here’s a hint to stay on track- just say to yourself “just this, just this, just this, just this,” and stay in the moment with what you love, whatever and whoever it may be.

“Just this” is the psychological state of flow that is the capacity to be “one with the music,” to get lost in a thing that is both a challenge and requires some skill, but we love doing it.

I love working on my house, fixing things over, planting things, and changing things around. I love working on a project that I bought for next to nothing from a garage sale and make it beautiful again –until I start to think, I should be doing something productive, I should be doing something more worthwhile than all this “wanna be” artistic playing around.

That just kills it.

As it kills the flow, it also kills the parasympathetic, healing, restorative, homeostatic response going on in the body.

Flow is restorative, getting lost in what we love that heals and creates an inner unity and oneness with everything. The parasympathetic nervous system response in our body is the healing restorative response that is characterized by “calm and connect” instead of “flight-flight”.

Evolutionarily we are as equipped to make this calm and connect response as we are the fight-flight response. Over millions of years our brains have grown and developed that way.

What is your flow? Where is your flow?

When and where do you get lost in what you’re doing so that time just flies by and you do “just this?” Those are very important and significant activities and times.

Do more of them, build more of them into your life.

They are moving meditation and the whole purpose of meditation is wrapped in those times when we are able to do and be “just this.”

“Just this” is “moving meditation.”

© Dr. William K. Larkin 

 

The “Open Doors” Of Your Life

Life Love

VibeCore is the place of your basic movement into and attachment to the world.

It is the place from which you either “go for it” or you don’t.

What you want may change in the process of bringing it into your life. It may change in nature, and it may come in a different package than you expected, but it will come.

What is the proof of this? Is there a proof? Yes. There are two places; the first is not as important as the second.

The first is research and the second is your history.

If you look at your history and you are honest, the proof is there. If you look at your history and you have shed the skins of the past, so you are not looking like or sounding like a “victim”, the proof is definitely there.

If you aren’t feeling sorry for yourself and if you’re honestly assessing where you are in life, you will find that you have gotten pretty much everything you have wanted in one way or another.

Where one door may have closed another door opened. Because you are born with resilience, “bounce back”, and an enormous capacity to process and learn from what has happened to you, in such a way, that always, where one door has closed, another has opened. It has brought, often disguised, what you really wanted.

You may not have liked everything you got.

You may have changed your mind about it when you got it, but all it did was form the next desire, the next want, and then you went on to get that in some form or another.

It is also true, if you are honest with yourself, that what you have resented and been angry about for a long time or whined about forever, has resulted in you creating more of the same in your life. Maybe you don’t like what you got, but you got what you wanted and it tried to teach you how to want with more clarity and self-understanding.

What we are getting now is still trying to teach us these lessons. If you see what you have gotten – whatever it may be – as a gift, that it is always a gift and are willing to learn the lessons it teaches, then you will get what you want faster and the next door will open more quickly.

Actually, the next doors open very quickly, usually. This whole process of life has been in the process of strengthening your VibeCore, if you are honest about it.

We do not spend nearly as much time as we think wandering in dark hallways unless we choose to.

The greater responsibility you take for having largely created your own life, the more freedom you have and the greater your sense of your own power.

The greatest proof of your VibeCore and its power in your life is finding its truth in your history. If you are honest, you will conclude that you have brought into your life, by the match of your wanting and believing, most everything you wanted.

 

© Dr. William K. Larkin 

The Secret To Letting Go

Letting Go

…Is identifying where you want to attach.

Your VibeCore is a like a magnet of energy you put out that attracts to you what you get in life.

Let’s first talk about the whole idea of a personal vibration. It is not a new idea. You really already know about this if you listen to your “gut” or your intuition, or the sense you have when you walk into a room. It is so much a part of us that we don’t even really notice it, but we use it all the time.

A vibration is your “vibe,” it’s the vibe you put out to others about who and how you are. And it’s the vibe you pick up from others about who and how they are.

It is so close to you it’s almost like an instinct. It can come as a surprise, though, that we may be better at picking up someone else’s vibe more than we are aware of what is our own vibe and what makes it what it is.

The longer you are around another person’s vibe, that you have learned to be so used to their vibe that you can read them in an instant. We sometimes call it reading their “mood,” but this is much more than mood. Mood is an outcome of one’s VibeCore.

Wanting is not an easy thing because we are given so many messages about wanting, and especially about desiring.

We have also been trained, oftentimes, that our wants and wanting are selfish, that we want too much, even that we are greedy.

We are often times told to be satisfied with what we have, that we are never content, always wanting more. Feeling guilt for wanting and desiring is an easy experience for many people.

Wanting what we want is a matter of an issue called “attachment.” Your first job, after you were born, was attachment to the world. We are almost obsessed by “letting go” philosophies and ideas, and for sure there are things we must let go of having, being, and doing.

But the great secret of letting go is to define what it is that you really want to attach to. A focus on letting go takes the energy away from defining the next attachment, the next area of growth, the momentum of forward-moving progress.

Do you have to let go first? No. But you will subtly let go when you even start to think about what you want next, about what is next, about where you are going.

Wanting and desire and attachment are more important than letting go.

You do not have to know in a day, on the spot, what you want. You only have to be guided by your own intention to getting there.

You do not have to have “certitude” that you will get it, but you do have to be aimed at using your real strengths more and more.

Playing to your strengths builds your VibeCore, and should increasingly become your mantra.

© Dr. William K. Larkin 

 

 

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