The recent attention to hope is significant and important, so important that we added the State Of Mind of hope to our Emotional Gym
But those who write about and research hope are still fixated by how they cast it as a “resilient resistant” skill set.
“Resilient resistance” rather than the capacity to move through life transitions in ways that evoke growth and forward movement, growth.
The problem comes from seeing hope from a problem-oriented basis, as “resilience” to an adversity, rather than a symptom of a larger approach to life issues, life transitions, that is the outcome of the natural growth and evolution of the brain, of consciousness.
The issue is not whether you are resilient, but how you respond to novelty, and to what degree it’s threat or safety.
No one asks, is there a deeper issue than a response to adversity going on here, a response to life in general, and at particular time in life?
Adversity just draws attention to the need for something that is vital to moving through transition.
The real adversity is what draws your life into the future, and how are you cooperating with that unfolding change into a new consciousness, or holding onto an old way of seeing reality. That has to affect the movement of information from right to left hemisphere, but there are only inklings of research there.
The framework is wrong and the focus on adversity is too narrow.
The term resilience suggests a special set of abilities or strengths, rather than a response to an expanding consciousness trying to question meaning and the core of life satisfaction.
The response to adversity is “to get better” or to “get over it and go on with life”, rather than, what do YOU want? How do you want to live, what is working in your life that is meaningful, and what is meaningful in your life that is an illusion and providing no “cookies in your cookie jar,” even though the jar seems really, really important?
The issue isn’t whether you “bounce back.”
The issue is how you want to live and why. The issue is adjusting to unfolding neurocognitive development and what it means to think and reason differently, undoing self-sabotage in the process, if necessary.
Resilience is not one set of permanently learned, default skills; it is different things at different times in life.
You invent hope differently at different stages of your life, and the transitions of your life. And what you invent has to come from someplace in you that “believes” something.
We despair when we cannot find with some degree of clarity what it is that we believe.
© Dr. William K. Larkin