How much time do you want to spend with negative feelings?
How Much? Really, HOW MUCH?
How much time do you want to spend telling yourself that your negative feelings are ok? How much time do you want negative feelings soothed?
How long do you want to park in negative feelings?
Negative feelings are a warning system. Some negative feelings are learned habits; we’ve spent a lot of time practicing them. When we don’t pay attention to them, they add up and get our attention in one way or another.
Either way, an important question is how important are they to you? How much time do you want to feel negatively when you think it’s justified for you to do so?
Negativity comes at a significant cost. It raises your cortisol level, which in turn arouses your sympathetic nervous system, which in turn arouses a whole host of hormones that create stress that affects everything, including about your health and the clarity of your perception, not to mention the length of your life.
We know negativity can be a warning, but how much alarm do you want?
I want only as much negativity to give me a cue to check out it’s accuracy: is something really negative?
I want as little negative arousal as possible. I want to use as little output of energy on feeling or thinking negatively as possible. I want as little reaction as possible for the sake of my health and my clarity of perception.
I just don’t want to waste any more time there than is absolutely necessary.
Why? Because this is what I know.
I want to waste as little of my own gas as possible. I don’t want to waste my gas on driving myself in ways that are unproductive. I want to get as much mileage out of my personal gas as possible.
I want to love and create as much as possible. I hate waste. I believe that the best ecology of the planet begins with my own attitude toward my own energy and taking good ecological care of myself and my output of effort.
I want it to count and matter because my life is a gift.
There are those who believe that negativity, like anger, springs us into action. It does, that’s true, but the cost is great, much greater than when we take action based on a positive use of our strengths. There isn’t a problem to be solved that isn’t done better from kindness and love than from anger or frustration.
Negativity, while normal and natural, has a far greater cost to us personally than positive energy. Negativity is like driving the most gas-guzzling car you can find, the most polluting, and paying the highest price possible for gas. It’s just a waste and it harms the environment.
Do you think that your negativity doesn’t harm the planet? People who throw trash out their car windows from the fast food joint they poisoned themselves with are exercising a lot of negativity.
I actually believe that when I send love to someone in my thoughts and feelings that it travels in some way. I believe that my emotions and thoughts are a kind of energy that travels, but we simply don’t know how to measure it yet. Even though we know that when meditators go to a city and meditate for weekend that the crime rate goes down.
How negative do we want to be?
How much time do we want to give negative feelings?
In an age of ecology, let us be concerned about the largest waste of all – human energy wasted on unnecessary and unfruitful negativity.
People will tell you that feelings don’t have a morality. They are wrong. Your negative feelings used carelessly and capriciously hurt you and they hurt the environment, and they certainly affect those who love you.
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