There is another whole book out building a case for the importance of negativity. Of course, negativity is important, it’s a red flashing button that something in the system needs adjusting. The greater the noise or the greater the flash, the more important the inevitable adjustment. That’s all. No need to go into fight or flight. We’ve spent millions of years learning how to do that. Let’s learn something new, very new and very way out there.
But first one more word about negativity. All of this concern about negativity is essentially about one thing: money. Negativity is a multi-billion dollar industry of therapists, doctors, medical health professionals – most of the them in bed with the pharmaceutical industry. Tons of money is spent on the industry of negativity and a lot of jobs, prestige, and identity rest on maintaining its importance – on fixing it. It’s almost as big an industry as the prison system.
“Healing” is big business. Focusing on something that is wrong and fixing it, particularly in people, is big business for religion as well. Healers would be out of an identity and out of money if people didn’t need to be fixed. Needy people who can’t figure out how to get their life together or who just need more attention would have a difficult time chasing some idea of wholeness they really don’t want in the first place. We have built a culture of victims, whose addiction to it can only be fed by negativity on some level.
In the prison system, the recidivist rate is in the high 80% and the return on negativity is even higher. What would be the financial cost of the industries feeding on negativity if the culture and the world became increasingly positive and healthy? What if there were a significant rise in health and well-being? What if that was the focus of the research and insurance dollars? The mental health industry and the health industry are misnamed. They should be called the “mental illness” industry and the “ill-health” industry, and their joint slogan should be the same as the prison system: “We get you in and you don’t get out.”
Practitioners of any healing system (including religious) should be given the Optimism Test and if they don’t get a very high score; they should be shut down until they do. The research already exists to show that 75% of healing is the result of the doctor/patient relationship. If your doctor is a brusque, time-driven prescription writer with an office staff more trained to see that your insurance card is up to date rather than able to look you in the eye, change doctors.
Let’s take a very far-reaching look here and imagine what things are like in 50 years in terms of what people “feel” and “think” and how that works for their health. Right now we have the significant research that personal flourishing happens when there is a ratio of 3:1 positive to negatives in day to day living. You learn to do that. We also know that this ratio at about 12:1 begins to break down, that the positive becomes unstable. Here’s the deal. It is already a challenge to get people to live at 3:1 ratio. Doing that takes very, very good coaching and lots of practice and intention. We barely know how to do that. But we can do it. And at ANI, we do it very well.
What about this whole range of a ratio from 4:1 to 10:1? What’s up with that? What can happen there? Where are the people with a 6:1 positivity ratio and what do they look like? What are they doing? We don’t know. Can you imagine the flap from the mental illness industry when we start aiming for 6:1 or 7:1 positivity ratios? They’ll be nuts with their warnings of the need to be more negative and critical. How else could you grow a society of victims?
Enter the Russians. Enter the research done during the Cold War on parapsychology. To gain an edge, the Russians spent a good deal of research time on what the brain could really do. Were there “savant-like” extra-sensory perceptions or mental capacities that could be grown and developed? They had some incredibly interesting findings, as does Duke University. I am only skimming the surface here, but stay with me.
Let’s pretend we’re on a retreat with the top 100 creative designers from Apple, imaging coaching and thriving for the next 50 years.
When Star Trek beamed Scottie down and he opened his flip phone we thought, “how cool!” Now we think, “how ordinary.” When Apple developed the Mac and rebirthed itself, it designed a computer after ideas from the Jetson cartoons. We thought “how cool!” and the largest percentage of people who had never owned a computer bought a Mac.
They began doing things on their kitchen table they had never, never dreamed they could do on a computer, never mind having a computer sitting on the kitchen counter and soon in several rooms. Individual computers, a thousand songs in your pocket, a telephone to shop and “internet” with, who ever heard of such things 50 years ago?
If I were on the Apple retreat, which is now an ANI retreat, I would ask people to look at the resurrection of comic books heroes. Spiderman, Batman, The Green Hornet, Captain Marvel, all of the X characters and the Ironman movies. For awhile I thought these movies were nuts and beneath me. The increasing cultural interest made me ask, “what are they trying to signal?” What is the collective unconscious, even Spielberg movie myths, signaling here?
Super human capacities,“savant-like” capacities of mental acumen. And that’s where we’re heading with ratios of 6:1 and 8:1 and 10:1 in positive to negative. These are high ratios of mental acumen positively growing an always evolving brain and Mind. Campbell told us that the very nature of myth was changing. So is the hero’s journey.
It is a lot of bother, and it is women who deeply know that to be true.
I would suggest at our ANI retreat of the best of the best, that what we are looking at is something like “super-thriving,” “super-health,” “super well-being.” States of being that are so healthy with high levels of prevention are now the “flip phone” of the day. Super-thriving is so progressed that disease doesn’t have much of a chance and the pills of today look like the tonic bottles of the medicine men. Super-thought, an evolved state of a far greater integrated interneuronal circuitry; we think faster, healthier, better. Paranormal gifts of sensory perception are far more developed because the mind is healthier and freer of resistance and negativity. This is not mania; this is super health and super creativity at a ratio of 10:1 positive to negative. That’s what the higher ratios will create.
The old models of mental illness and physical illness are eroding. Read The Myth of Mental Illness and Anatomy of an Epidemic. Cancer isn’t on the decline; it’s on the rise. Why? Because it’s about toxins, resistance and negativity and it’s the opposite of thriving. Even the creative genius of Steve Jobs could not get him past his own negativity. He needed a coach. Read his biography by Isaacson. How I would have loved to have been his life coach! And by the way, the biography leaves a lot to be desired; Isaacson needs a good life coach as well, but that’s another blog.
Super-thriving, that’s where we’re going and we will create it as we image it and get out of the argument about how important the negative is. We are already using the negative and it is showing us how much is doesn’t work and always points the way to what will be. This beginning we are experiencing of life coaching is a miniscule representation of where this work will go in just the next 10 years. We are living in the start of a revolution that is leaving “healing” behind as prevention emerges, and “super prevention” is surely going to follow.
Right now, we are inventing the essential basic beginning tools in the NeuroPositivity of super thriving. What’s the great obstacle? Resistance in using the tools with enough consistency for the new ones to unfold along with a lack of imagination. After you’ve had a stroke, it takes time and effort to grow new neuropathways. After the lifetime stroke of negativity most of us have had, it’s going to take some dedicated work to grow a ratio of 3:1 and neuropathways of positivity. But it doesn’t need to take as much time as you might be spending on your butt or pecs at the local gym.
Go to a super hero movie. Consider thriving at a higher level. Imagine it for yourself and as you do, how you create it will come to you; MasteRevelation will draw it to you.
Continuing Education for Coaches
1. How do you create your own 3:1 ratio?
2. What is a day like when you have a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative?
3. What are the creative ways you are learning to “weight” positive to negative?
4. How much time do you spend in “flow” each day?
5. What is the magic of “just this” and how is it working for you?
For Our Larger Blog Community
1. How does knowing the scientific proof of the positivity ratio affect your thinking about your experience?
2. How can you begin to change your everyday life to a more positive weight?
3. In what areas of your life are you on your way to “super-thriving?” Give us an example.